Learn to be INTROSPECTIVE

Dear Blogger.. I am at work today, a little slow for a Saturday-but it's still early. I'm in a relatively good mood today, unaffected by others moods. I play therapist all day. So many women come in that don't want to be happy with their services or with anything about themselves. My coworkers get angry at them, but I can spot them a mile away. They just don't like themselves. Sometimes men do it to, stomp or storm out ; no matter how you try to satisfy them- but who the hell knows whats wrong with them? Which brings me to something I wonder about concerning people's behaviors. I myself am always trying to grow and change my ways! are other people just not aware or conscious of their behavior? Certainly there have been times when I didn't act very civil in public, but I immediately felt foolish and examined my actions. I also meet a lot of women who are middle aged and they are still making mistakes they should have discovered long ago, and to avoid them. Especially concerning their demeanor with men. Part of life is about paying attention to what you are doing right now, if there is something wrong with your view- change it! Of course another obstacle is sure to come along, but you're getting smarter with every change you make. If you don't make any realizations about yourself, you are stuck in your same old ways..that is really dull! Some people just seem hopeless, but please..look at what you are doing and find a better way. pay attention to how others around you respond and react. If you are getting negatively feedback, you ain't actin' right!

Confessions of a Hairstylist

In case you ever wondered or were ever curious..No, we don't mind when you tell us your whole life story and personal details. Yes, we do mind if you come in from just had a vigorous workout..especially if you are dehydrated and your sweat smells like urine. It would be nice if you chew gum after having a cigarette and coffee. Yes, it's okay and preferred if you come in without freshly washed hair, but not if its totally greasy..well that's nasty. If you have unsightly drandruff and we recommend that you use a special shampoo- get it...don't walk out the door perfectly content with your greazzzy smelling fungus head- really! Guys complain more about grays than women do. 98 percent of married men flirt with me or have at one point said or done something inappropriate or spoke not-so-nicely about there wives. Yes, that means only a mere 2 or 3% of men are completely decent!! I've done A LOT of mens hair. No, i don't mind being a therapist-Yes, i DO mind being a phsychotherapist-especially not if it includes only a 5 dollar tip. Acceptable Tips: 15 for a women's cut..7 or 10 for a mens cut..30 for color and cut..40 for a 3hr foil highlighting session. Please..and thank you very much. Youre excessive directions are annoying and are irrelevant- you can't make a stylist give you a good cut! -she either is skilled or she isnt- you will ruin her creative flow! Men-it's my job to be nice to you..unless you get a clue that i am attracted, dont assume otherwise..especially if you come in with bad breath- c'mon.

My Dating Dilemma

i just got an email for some dating advice book and i am totally annoyed. i know that men are so simple that things like ignoring a phone call, appearing too busy, making them wait..can really get a man to take interest. I am a challenge, damn it! i may forget to do those simple things at first..but just because i make it easy for them in the beginning..well, that doesn't mean it is going to be that easy to keep me! I give up. I don't want any dumb dating advice, i don't want to appeal to some simple son of a b*tch!!! ---- who stood me up. i want all men who have ''commitment issues" to read this and learn. First of all, i thought that men like superheros. coulda fooled me. Well listen here men..women don't need you to solve all our issues..we'll be more likely to be helping you with your stupid typical issues..like, my dad didnt give me his approval growing up..or shit like that. We just need to know youre going to stick around and if we can trust that you won't treat us like we are "too much", get through some rough patches and treat us as though we are worth the effort! Damnit. Yes, women should learn to get strong on their own..but they shouldnt get dumped for it, because if there was any love in the first place..a man should be willing to stick around for a while. God, men suck. Yes, you men really suck at this. they are willing to completely trash a relationship just because a woman has a few unresolve issues. well, its not gonna happen to me again..i have learned my lessons. i will be strong on my own and i don't need someone by my side to help me get through it all. You see that? you see all we are asking for?? so thank you Malekind. we don't need you to help mend our broken hearts with your patience, kindness and loving understanding. we don't need a white knight in shining armour..so if you find a sweet girl who is beautiful and loving and perfect otherwise..be sure not to give her a freakin' chance. no, i don't hate all men..i just love the idea of one! Here's to men..may your needs always come first, and may you never make any realizations about the opposite sex.

manic my as*

I am not overly opinionated about things such as abortion, politics, but on this subject I feel compelled and qualified to share my well-informed opinion. After reading in a magazine about a woman's battle with manic depression and a book review of a memoir..Well I am annoyed and concerned with the 'tales' of this 'disorder'. Bipolar, manic depression, is a state of mind. Maybe there is such thing as chemical imbalance- people who need medication.. but for those who suffer (and i find it come in varying forms and degrees) it is a state of mind that needs to be corrected. My affliction here is that people are putting on labels and not targeting the whole truth in the matter, or root of problem. It starts with similar feelings in individuals abut every person afflicted with the 'disorder' is indeed an individual in the case. Feelings of fear, feelings of an infinite doom and gloom- and there is truly doom- doom to not recognize, doom to not recognize a pattern. A pattern of flawed thinking. I do not want people to read these accounts of 'illness' that are glorified with its 'darkness and edge'. Stating that there is a lure, that 'the manic state can be so intoxicating that some patients are loathe to let go'. With that sort of realization, one might realize they are not alone with some of the feelings but can only bring hopelessness- leading a person to think that they indeed are 'manic' and need to be medicated. Such lies. My answers however are on a basis of my religious, spiritual beliefs. I believe that the spirit within the body wants answers to his questions. We have a conscience and it knows right from wrong. With depression- something always seems dreadfully wrong. I believe there is a bit of narcissism in the 'disorder' and the things I have read really exemplify it. There is a magazine that has journal entrees of her bout with bipolar disorder. She has no answers, just glorifies the occurances of it- thinking she is some great thinker, mysterious..whatever. Someone that wants real answers would not benefit but sink deeper into doubt and uncertainty. So back to the right and wrong issue. Something within us wants to know the truth, but there are so many things in the way of it. There are layers and layers of thinking that keep us from the truth. These thoughts are unproductive and poisionous. They will keep us so far from the truth. One must listen to and search his own heart-truly. From the open eyes of his heart he will uncover the mysteries that are really very much within our reach. To someone who is suffering from the disorder I would want them to know that every negative thought and obstacle are all lies. Everyone is different and has to search their own heart for their own revelation. It is my desire to plant a seed of hope that freedom does exist. You can be freed from the imprisonment of your thoughts- but if you have lost heart- there is no finding your way. Somehow, even in the tiniest corner of your heart that is true.. your answers will be revealed.